Hi guys, I just reached a milestone in my life. A performance I’ve been preparing for 4 months for… My entry into the Dean’s List, and of course the start of the busiest part of the semester. Things are going to be really difficult soon, and I’m going to have to start preparing for the challenges I’m going to face.
I just wanted to reflect here, because I still can’t really get over the high which was my first performance on a big stage. I felt happy, a rush of adrenaline, everything felt so right. And even now I can’t stop feeling proud about myself and all I have done.
But it’s not over yet. I feel so tempted to just rest on my laurels but I need to start moving again. Everything’s starting to move at a high speed all around me but I’m still feeling that huge inertia. I think its the performance, but honestly, I have other things on my mind other than that.
If you’ve been following this blog for a while you’d know I tend to get infatuated with girls pretty easily, and then I’d act stupidly around my crush. And I think that cycle has repeated over and over and I’ve had numerous failures, rejections, and through it all I get hurt and grow less and less confident and more and more skeptical about the next one that comes along. I know for a fact that if I do act out on all of these desires it’s highly likely I’ll fail somehow. It’s just how it always ends.
It’s probably not going to be any different with this girl that I just got infatuated with. And the thought scares me that I’ll end up in that cycle again.
That’s how I feel right now. And it’s distracting me from working again.
I know it’s a little heavy but I just needed somewhere to vent out these thoughts. I know I need to change myself and stop letting past failures influence new ones. Maybe I shouldn’t think so much, and maybe I should just let it take its course. It’s just hard for me though.
Well, here are my not-so-positive thoughts. But hey, venting it out somehow made me much more comfortable. It’s just all part of life, and I know somehow, I’ll break out of this stupid cycle of insecurity. Have faith, Kevin.
Hello guys, I just wanna write a post before I begin a new chapter in my studies. The road is not going to be easy, and I’d like to reaffirm myself in my abilities not just to study, but in everything else that I am going to embark on in this Semester.
For the most part, I have been doing pretty well in school, but I have always neglected relationships with people for grades: it’s a natural tradeoff, since, I’m an introvert, and I tend to prefer more solitary time and I do appreciate having enough sleep even on the worst of days. However, I think in some ways, I should really make some time for the people that matter, i.e. the friends closest to my heart.
Next, I want to reaffirm that I am a very capable and hardworking individual. Whatever I put my mind to, I will excel at. I shouldn’t need to feel fearful or worried when the deadlines and stuff are pressuring me, and I know I will always get through these challenges. And of course, if I fuck up, I fuck up. There’s no big deal. Learn from your mistakes, and move on.
And now I would like to reflect on the last semester, what could’ve been done better, and of course, what I did well.
Last semester I remember I devoted a lot of my time to studies, and I was very focused even though I got tired and pretty burnt out towards the end. However, sometimes, I think I shouldn’t judge my work to the point where I will lose sleep if I don’t go through EVERYTHING like more than thrice. Learn to trust the quality of your work.
Next, START EVERYTHING EARLY. Because you really won’t know what shit will happen down the line, and this applies ESPECIALLY to group projects, because you might feel safer in a group, but ultimately it hinges on starting early and trusting your team to do the same.
On my other endeavours:
I have dropped a lot of things that were not working for me, and I think that that has worked out for the best. Now, I am more free to pursue the things that I love in my free time rather than pursue all of those things half-heartedly like last semester. I spent a lot of time studying, and I think now that I have less commitments, I can finally start recording and composing music as well as studying Japanese proper.
So start early, trust yourself, make time for the things you love and your friends. You’ll be off to a great start before you know it, Kevin.
One last thing. The relationship I had didn’t work out, and I think I was a little too presumptuous. Well, such is life. I’ll move on with these lessons in mind.
These few days have been monotonous for me, and I’ve been thinking, where the heck am I going with my life?
It’s like, I don’t know what I’m doing, or where I’m going, I’m just floating, and I’m just feeling empty.
I’ve had time to reflect on myself, and what happened so far. It’s hard not to beat myself up over what has happened, but I’m trying not to. Sometimes my mind goes, why? why? And almost all other times I’m just getting by, and I don’t really want to achieve anything.
But there’s really no point in being sad over it and it’s not entirely my fault. It always takes two hands to clap. The best thing to do now, is to move forward, and to hope for someone better to come along.
I just need time to myself now, and I want to move on. Things’ll only get better from here.
These few days, I’ve been meeting with good people, and doing great things for my life. Though not as intense as I was back then, I’m moving forward slowly.
Allow me to explain my previous post. So I met this girl, and we hit it off pretty well. I wanted to confess to her at the end of the Ishikawa Homstay. Somewhere along the line, I didn’t see the signs, and I was talking a lot more to another girl. That girl ended up thinking that I liked her, and told the girl I liked. That’s where they both started to hate me. To be honest, I’m not sure what I did to make the other girl think that way, but I guess it takes two hands to clap, I’m not gonna deny that I’m partly to blame for the way she thought.
And so it all ended in this catastrophic confrontation, where I no longer am friends with either of them.
I’m wearing my heart on my chest, because that’s what I resolved to do. I made mistakes, and I’m hurt because of it. But that doesn’t mean that I wallow in self-pity like I last did. Rather, I’m trying to move on, but I still feel it. I feel all the hurt but I’m no longer crying like I once did. It’s just, a bit lonely now and again.
I’ll move forward somehow. There’s a lot of positive things coming up for me in my life, and it’s not all doom and gloom.
Some things that are happening with my life:
- My GPA is awesome. So I’m looking into a scholarship. I realized that I really love Japan, and I probably will for the rest of my life. So with that in mind, I’ll probably get a scholarship related to Japan and study really hard for it.
- During the trip, my host did some mana cards (Hawaiian Tarot-like cards) and the cards told me that I have too many possibilities with my life, and I should really sit down and reflect what kind of person I want to be, and then move forward with a clear goal, throwing away all the things that don’t matter as much to me. In some ways, I feel like I need to really settle what is it that I really want to do for the rest of my life. Right now, I’m feeling like music just isn’t cutting it for me.
- I’m gonna start uploading stuff on Instagram just to build up a social media platform, but, as I said, I feel like music isn’t getting me anywhere.
Hmm yeah that’s about it, but I’m slowly thinking that maybe a life with music isn’t really what I want anymore. Or, rather, I cannot be as good a musician as I’d like to be, and I’m better off focusing on the stuff that can really benefit me in future, like, my degree and Japanese.
I mean, I don’t know if I will ever let go of my rockstar dreams (I’ll still pay homage to my roots as a musician by gigging and all), but maybe it’s time to seriously consider if I really wanted music to be a career, or whether it’s more off a “it’ll be nice if…” kind of thing.
Seeing my host family live together, I realized a few things.
Happiness exists in many forms, and sometimes, chasing one type of happiness will only bring you pain. That’s how I feel about music right now. Sometimes, I keep thinking about how I’m not the best musician and all, and it hurts. There’s a lot of things I’d like to work on, but in my own time. It’s something I like, but I don’t know if I can ever make a living out of.
Yeah, so these are just my thoughts right now. I don’t know what the future holds, but I think I might end up working with my degree and Japanese for the rest of my life.
I’ll leave things at that for now, it’s getting late, and I’d like some time to myself before I sleep.
Good night everyone.
Its one of those times to go inwards. Sometimes things don’t work out the way they should, mistakes were made, and sometimes, things aren’t meant to be.
Right now, I have just fallen from a high. When you’re in love, everything feels so right, until, it ends, and you’re left with nothing.
Granted, I thought the love between us went both ways, but in the end it was just me being deluded. So ends another one of my relationships with someone I fell for.
I think I wanna take a break from relationships for these few months. This was how I felt for the past few days, and I’m still in the midst of recovering from it. Bear with me guys, I need some time to pick myself up after all that’s happened! I’ll be back at it after a few weeks. I just need time alone to reflect and all before I let my heart put the matter to rest.
Hi guys, I’m feeling a bit half dead now, so I thought I’d just try to pick myself up from the ground. There’s gonna be a lot of talking to myself in this one, so hope it isn’t too awkward for you to read. xD
It’s less than 3 days to my last final exam. I’m giving up on myself, and my mind is telling me I can’t continue.
It’s like, one of those things where, you’ve suffered a lot, and since it’s the last lap, you give excuses on why you shouldn’t work your butt off anymore.
I want to tell myself now that I CAN DO IT.
Even though I feel like shit, even though everything about this term wasn’t that great, I CAN STILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE NOW.
Pick yourself up, Kevin. Do you want to finish strong, or regret that you gave up on the last few days?
I know the whole term really drained you, but this is literally the last two days that you can make a difference, and YOU CAN. If you give up now because you’re tired, it’s such a waste since you came this far. Everyone’s tired, not just you. Everyone is doing their best, and you should too. You’re no different from them, and just keep at it. After these two days, you’ll truly be free. You want to finish this knowing that YOU FINISHED STRONG. Not giving up because of all your past failures, and just because you decided to stay on the ground when you fell.
Take a breather, do what you like for this short hour, but tonight, you’re making a difference.
Today is the Wednesday of week 14.
To be honest I got into the rhythm of studying, and it ain’t that bad. But I really can’t wait to get on with all of this. I’m pretty shagged out.
Recently I felt like I had a bit more time to breathe, and devote a little more time to exercise and playing the guitar (since my performance is coming up).
I just want to pen down a few thoughts before I grind again:
First, I can’t give up now. Even though I’m trying my best, I should keep up with the pace for the next 14 days. It’s just 2 weeks.
Second, I want to tell myself, it’s okay if you fail, just know you did all you can. Push yourself and learn from your mistakes. This term wasn’t as good as the last term, but I believe that if I learn from my mistakes, I’ll grow more as a person and my grades will follow.
Lastly, I wanna say, good job so far! (to myself). It’s the last lap. Lets go.